Small size women who cant have sex
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I have a female friend who told me a rather surprising secret. I have known her for years as being slightly petite, just 5 foot 2 inches tall, and sexy and beautiful. She is in her mid twenties, has been in several relationships with guys and she discovered that she has been cursed with a crazy problem. She is too small down there. The female bit that the guy messes with so that a man and woman can make sexy love. Men basically can't have any fun with her because the "doorway" is too small. You get me?
Basically, some women do have this problem. The problem of small sexual organs. She is not a petite teen, she's an adult, same age as me. So she met me recently and over coffees we got talking about boyfriends and girlfriends, and she confided in me. What a surprise it was. She can go all the way with a guy in a physical relationship, except, she can't go all the way. Nature it seems has struck a blow. She is troubled by being a small female with a petite-ish body and "parts" that make it difficult for her to enjoy a physical relationship with her hunky guy. In other words, ladies, her vagina is too small to allow any proper sexual relationship with her boyfriend. I asked how small? What limits are we talking about. She replied "pencil size". Oh boy. This is the curse of small women who can't seem to have sex. What can my friend do about it?
Most women can take a joke, but not be able to go all the way with a guy? Come on. This is crazy. So like, how many boyfriends has she lost over this mishap? Apparently, quite a few. Guys get very fired up when they discover there is no access down there. Short of using a hammer, they can't get "it" in. Bummer. She has had all kind of comments ranging from "Gee - it's a bit tight today..." or things like "I'm just popping down to the Hardware store for a Kango Hammer, see if that gets it open..."
I felt embarrassed for her, and surprised, since she's a real "looker" but I felt she needed to go and see a doctor or Sexual Expert or Therapist about it. I admire her bravery her willingness to talk about it, and I feel so bad for her because it has ruined some very sweet relationships for her in the past. She is a very gorgeous lady. And I like her more than I ought to, really. So asking me for any last minute advice - there in that cafe, I felt weird, thinking why she was asking me. She knows I have a girlfriend, and that we are living together. She asked me if I would call myself either an expert in "those issues" or issues to do with "stuff down there" or whatever.
I am not ashamed of who I am as a woman. All I could tell her was that yes, I have a certain experience, but I usually keep it to myself, for the most part anyway. I suggested to her as a friend that she try being more relaxed with herself. Maybe the smallness down there, i.e., the small vagina is compounded by muscles and parts of the body that have to relax more, and loosen up. She has had in reality, very little experience and so has not had her "equipment fully tested" if you get my drift. She has a desk job, but works out in a gym a lot. A little massage therapy would work wonders down there. Massage before lovemaking is wonderful, as it relaxes both parties accordingly. Her boyfriend certainly would not object to that. I find that massage made me sleep, alas. (It works too well for me!) And then there is room for some gentle foreplay perhaps.
Foreplay is wonderful as it breaks the ice and relaxes both people, and the more relaxed both people are, the better things work. We relax, we let our guard down, and our bodies act accordingly. Kissing and touching works like a curious affirmation in a way. We learn what our partner likes or does not like. What is good to touch and what is not. And things tend to work better when we are relaxed and comfortable with each other and each other's bodies. Well, that's my theory and I'm sticking to it.
One other idea was to use some sex toys as an adjunct to foreplay. Ok, some people might not be comfortable with that, and prefer au naturelle. Despite some stigma about these items, a little medium sized "helper" (okay, dildo is the helper in question, ya happy now!) can help to stimulate the general area, and relax the woman and help to prime the area for the main event, so to speak. Gentleness works here. Another idea was to use some special lubricant that can help to make things work more smoothly. Not all women are terribly keen on this, and yes, I understand this also. Not all lubricants can be used in that area, so again, only an expert can say what kind of product for sure can be used around or within the vagina. Again, this is an entirely private matter for the woman to decide on. Some women suffer from a sort of dryness. A thing where the woman's organs don't provide enough natural lubricant and so things feel more stiff, more sore, and more painful. I asked her did this size thing run in her family, and she just didn't know, she never even thought of that. When you are sitting in a cafe having refreshments, you have to really think hard to focus on this. It is certainly an unusual problem...
A woman also needs to be realistic about her male partner, and his size. It might not be the sole reason in my friend's case, but some men are just BIG, and so are their body parts and so a "fit" might be out of the question. And it can be embarrassing. (She has had this issue with quite a few of her boyfriends.) How many women do you know have admitted, "I couldn't manage him, because he was too big for me...and rate that and compare it to "...we've been trying for ages but nothing is happening, we're still trying..." Women are reluctant to admit this...and some men are annoyed by it. To be fair on guys, some men are just amazing and very understanding and accomodating, so well done you guys!
I also think that it's not just the body and the "bits" that need to relax. It's the mind as well. The woman has to be comfortable. She has to feel relaxed and reassured. She needs to be made to feel confident, not ashamed of either her body or lack of experience. The woman has to be ready. A woman asking herself "what the hell am I getting into here?" is not ready for this.
Some women crave the experience of having a sexual relationship, (some, you crazy woman! You mean lots!!!) yet the woman can dread it as well. They might not be aware of this. The woman may have had an issue from a previous occasion where a bad thing happened to her. Perhaps abuse even. Or some remark or criticism made about her figure or just someone who was being nasty to her. I know very little about how the mind works or how people can be affected psychologically by events like that. But it can happen. Our confidence can be knocked. It usually happens when we are young and impressionable. When things can leave a permanent mark on us.
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A woman may have an expectation of what sex involves, and it might not be realistic or it's just plain false, or planted in her head somehow. Women can sometimes be unwittingly pressured into a physical relationship by a boyfriend who complains constantly or has some affectation, or is making some excuse. The boyfriend might be taking advantage of the woman's circumstance and lack of experience. Some guys just want the physical relationship but not much more. The woman should be able to trust her guy, and feel safe and assured. This is more related to relationship and maturity issues than size issues. And in fairness to guys, not all guys do this. There are understanding men out there too. I have met some of them.
Some women rely on other things to help them feel more relaxed. Alcohol being one. Drugs being another. I advocate the use of none of these. If you want to be able to remember anything of what your experience is as it happens, deadening your brain using artificial means like this is not the way. A physical relationship can be beautiful and satisfying. It is something that should be enjoyed by both parties, and should not come with any false or unfair preconditions. Which brings me to the subject that always hangs around, condoms.
To wear or not to wear. Surprisingly, my friend's boyfriend was not using a condom. This could also be a cause for concern. And an issue that could cause stress or tension. What about the woman's opinion? Doesn't she have a say? She sure as hell does. The woman has every right not to get pregnant if she does not wish it. And if she requests that he wears a condom, he should comply. If he cares about her, he will comply anyway. (He knows she is worth it.) If he doesn't, then he is just out for his own personal gratification. So if he won't wear a condom as she requests, he needs to know the implication in no uncertain terms. And the woman should not be afraid to put her foot down and refuse, then he can go without. (#1)
Women I find ( ok, slight rant here) - need to be more knowlegeable and learn more about their bodies and how things work. I don't want to be tagged an expert on the subject. Or a moaning old so-and so. I'm in my mid 20's for goodness sake. But I favour better education of females in their teens when they will be experimenting and finding things out anyway. (This applies to western cultures. Some other cultures are not as rapid in dealing with such matters. Talking about sex is taboo in some parts of the world.) By sharp contrast to this - half of the women I know were experimenting during teen years with sexual partners.
Education is almost another word for Awareness, and being aware of our bodies and what happens when a male and female get together physically for sex is some of the most important Rules of Life we will ever learn. Ignorance is the woman's enemy. Is that sexual experience going to happen out of curiosity? Is it experimental? Is it recreational? Is it for the purpose of starting a family? Does she also understand a thing called abstinence? (Does he?)
Information is power. Yes it IS boring and a large pain to have to think about the deed before doing it. But then so is getting a mortgage for buying a house. But no one rushes haphazardly into that decision without planning and thinking. Why not planning and thinking before having sex? Since when did talking about it beforehand go out of fashion?
The matter is almost resolved, and you can now read below the update to the HUB and see the outcome. She is the only female friend (from College days) that I have who has ever told me this. She has a decent and understanding boyfriend. I wonder is she an isolated case? Or do many other women out there suffer with similar issues with the female organs? Since I began asking myself that question, I have found the answer is yes. Petite women are more affected, it seems. I sincerely wish that they find ways of overcoming this.
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I do not propose that the suggestions mentioned here are an exhaustive list of solutions. I hope that people will comment on this, and perhaps more solutions will come to light. (I have deliberately over-simplified some things for broadness here.) I truly welcome any good suggestions and opinions, and believe me - I am more than happy as a Hubber and a friend to pass them along. This Hub may yet perform a kind of duty here somehow. As long as the comments are decent and respectful. Thankyou.
UPDATE
Good news! I met my friend and she gave me an update. And I am happy to pass along the general info here. My friend has been told that with simple physical therapy and massage and relaxation techniques, she can alleviate SOME but not ALL of the symptoms of having a small vagina. It is just a simple case of her being unusually small in that department, and there is nothing medically she can do. But she is attending a therapy class for her and her boyfriend and they are getting to deal with it. And without getting to detailed or exact, or rude or whatever, they have "...managed to get things working okay." So we know what that means, Girls. (And guys too.) Result! It can be "treated" and I wish her a happy future with her nice cute boyfriend. Especially as he has now proposed to her! Yaaay! Thank you everyone for checking out the hub!
(#1 - Although the issue of sex that is forced or pushed on someone without permission or consent is not dealt with here, including rape, I have added this link just in case. Some males may refuse to wear a condom for religious reasons. You can still refuse to go along with this if you wish. It's their religion, not yours. Make your views clear. Ignorance is the enemy.)
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Its sooooooo strange. A pencil sized vagina. Really pity... Poor girl.... I think she should meet a doctor and undergo some surgery.
Jeeez I really don't know what to reply to this one except if I was in a relationship with her I know 2 good ways for each person in the relationship to be pleased sexually, I am sure you know the 2. She just needs to find the right guy who doesn't mind, I wish her good luck, great hub and rated up by this reader !
Hy sandipan: yes a small teeny one. One that admits only as much as a pencil, if your get my drift. There are muscles in there - we all have them, and learn to use them, so she will know soon enough what her options are. I am very nosey and want to know too! I hope to crap she doesn't read hub pages! LOL! I just spotted TattoGuy's comment here!
Hy Captain sir! Um, yes, I know where you are going with that. She is fairly open-minded. But I am waiting to see what the expert opinion will be. I was intrigued with her situation, I honestly admit, it's not something I've been told about before by someone I know. As for the thing with her guy, I broached the subject with her. And it's up to him, it seems. I am definitely curious to find out. She is trying to hold on to this boyfriend, I think. She makes me realise how much I take for granted when it comes to the size of "things" to do with sex. Thanks for this, TattoGuy! X
Interesting indeed...
@ ntweisen: You betcha!
I never knew...doesn't sound fun at all...I think your advice was really good...maybe your ARE an expert after all :)
Hy Sa Toya: I agree. It's no fun for the girl whatsoever. She is very glum, too glum and too beautiful to be worrying about the size thing. Yet there it is. It happens. I think her specialist will prove to be the expert. Hey - I thought ALL women knew this stuff! Apparently not! We all have much to learn...
Cheeky Girl, this hub is awesome! I have a friend with the same kind of issue (or rather, issues, as she has been cursed in all areas sexual) and I will be passing this along to her asap - keep up with the sexy hubs!
@ rockeren: I know people who refuse to believe that it could be true. It seems like a curse fo my friend. But she is in the process of getting expert advice, so she inspired this hub. I hope your friend gets to grips with it, and I wish her all the best. Thanks for passing it on. Cheers!
Maita, I am borderline petite too but I am too tall to be real petite. But I know lots of women my size and we don't be aware of the smallness issue that some women face. I didn't - till very recent when my friend told me. Yes, I have been to Holland and had a most interesting weekend. They really are very liberal there. Take care! Read twice! Were you taking notes, me wonders... I'm kidding! Heh! : )
There are more ways to please a woman than sex, but she just hasn't found the perfect match yet. now I am wondering when too small became a bad thing?
@ Caterino: Yes, some women will agree with that. She is very much trying to hold on to her guy, who so far sees to be very decent. She has found the "small" issue cost her some dear relationships with previous boyfriends. She is looking to somehow remedy that situation.
What a tough problem to have. I hope your sympathies also extend to men who unfortunately are simply too big for most girls. Believe me, we are out there.
@ James A Watkins: Hy James. Your name is familiar. I read your hubs, that's it. Ahaw, its a tough problem for a sweet girl like her. And yes, there are guys who have the equivalent problem. I did enquire as to her boyfriend's er..uh... "size", but she didn't um...expand on that. : )
Yes, you guys are certainly out there! And I am doing my best to keep a straight face, ok!
Damn I wish I was big and had that problem, I still recall those boys laughin at me in the showers, twas not my fault I was born small but, and a big butt, as my old Gran used to say " Tis how ya use it youngster, tis how ya use it, may the farce go with ya", my old Gran loved Star Wars, anyways I gotta go, am orderin a penis enlarger from Ebay ; ) x
Well HELLO Mr TattoGuy! *gives you a big smile* You are a hoot, you and your gran! LOL! I hope you have an affilate account with them, ebay might give you a wee discount. Congrats on 2 hubs tonight! You're heading upwards in the ratings! ; ) XOX
Why I thank you young lady, yer gettin a bit of a following yerself, must be that cockney charm I think lol, I bid you a goodnight moi friend xox
Well I will take this as a compliment, Sir! You have a thaaang for "cockney", don't you? : ) I like that "nordy" charm moi self! LOL! Is that an actual word? Guess it is now! Good night from us two "ladies". XOX XOX
Whenever I hear of such cases I feel for the person it affects. I think you may be on to something about her "size" being tied to mental attitudes about sex, and perhaps mental inhibitions about it, readiness etc. The vagina itself expands to great size (often times without tearing) to accomodate delivering a baby, and I think the reverse could be true that a vagina (even a small one) could support a male penis of any size at least girth wise. I'd be interested in studying more on the topic to see if its medically even possible.
Hy Springboard: It's nice to have your interesting comments here. Lots of girls worry about the size thing and then later discover that it was all just nerves or something, as they find things are ok, and they were just perhaps having their first time with a partner. But she has long known that it seems to be a size issue. But whether it's as nature "built" her or down to something else, is the mystery. Its definitely not her imagination, and she has lost boyfriends in the past. I feel awfully sorry for her. She would like to be a mother some day, but how can that happen when the "other" neccessities come first - and will they happen for her? Thanks for the input!
Yeah. Very sad.
It's a big issue for any woman! Thanks for the comments!
I think she hasn't found the right match.In time I think you work slow with the man she is with now and try many of the good options you suggested.If he doesn't want to stay around he is not as much in love with her as she is with him.The adventure is sometimes more important than the conquest.
Hy DREAM ON: I am able to say that the match is not the problem. No one is taking a stance against the guy in her life right now. Actually I met the guy, he's a looker. They look wonderful together, they turn heads, so to speak. "The Beckhams" comes to mind, actually. Heh! I don't have any new info to add here regarding the size issue, but it looks like the "adventure" is continuing for them. Having met the guy, I know that for sure. And I am not going to start apportioning blams on any person. Blame for what? They are working around whatever problem is there with the size thing. And they are a lovely couple and I wish them well, and hope a solution presents itself, and I will amend this hub to reflect that. Thanks for your comment, DREAM ON.
I had no clue you could be too small down there. I think you are right, if you relax and trust your partner the size issue can be easily solved.
@ arun mondol: Not so sure what that means, arun. Maybe elaborate a bit, if possible. Thanks.
@ cashmere: Yeah, that's what I thought. And I agree, trusting your partner is a huge part of having a good physical relationship and it should comfort and relax both people. Thankyou for the comment.
Unless there is something physically wrong with your friend (a doctor will tell) I am of the opinion that it is all in the mind. It is all about feeling relaxed, self confident and self assured about your sexuality.
Hy Anath: Yes, I'm inclined to think the same, but it's taking ages to find out! I'm dying to know! She seems very assured alright. If you saw how pretty she is - you'd see why. She turns heads anywhere.
i am not sorry for your friend .. its a mental block which she will overcome with the right man .. i am sure!! good luck to her!!
To dreamreachout: mental block idea is interesting. Thanks for this. Cheers!
I knew a girl in college who suffered this condition..so sad. She was really pretty and the guys were always asking her out but she didn't even want to try to get close to anyone because of this. The doctors told her she had the vagina of roughly a 14-18 month old child, and they could enlarge her but the cost was some crazy amount...wonder if she ever got it done?? Great hub!
Hy StormRyder: I actually discovered your most excellent hubs only today! I hope everyone reads them!
Your friend sounds like her condition might be awfully similar to my frend. The child-sized organs thing. Enlarging for huge amounts of money sounds crazy . My friend doesn't have that kind of money anyway. Why does it happen to the pretty ones? It must happen to lots more people out there. I have been told lots of strange things, there's supposed to be a name for it, but everyone know about it - just not it's name, apparently. Thanks for the comments, great to get your input! Cheers!
I don't pretend to have answers but I would like to say I truly enjoy toys and mutual Mast--b-t--n. And I have yet to meet a guy that doesn't enjoy these things as well. Mouth and tongue are other thoughts that come to mind. All the best.
Hy Lisa: Just caught this comment b4 hitting the pillows here. Thanks for this. I agree, it's the life and soul of a great physical relationship. And guys trip over themselves to try this too! Aaah, the tongue can often be a girl's best friend, how true! Some good suggestions here! Many thanks for the input! Cheers!
Just coming back to see if your friend found a solution...
I recently met the man of my dreams. I really wanted to meet this man all my life.
What happened when the longed-for event took place? It turned out since menopause, a tight band of flesh has formed around the inside of my vagina. He is large. There is absolutely no question of him being able to get in there.
For years his last girlfriend has frantically been mutilating voodoo dolls representing myself. In every way that could possibly destroy my health and prevent us from having sex (most, but not all, of you may laugh) I can't laugh about this.
I have read about the vagina getting shorter after menopause, but this band of flesh was never there before.
It would take surgery to change this-Too expensive for me and I've heard too many horror stories!
As usual people are mostly saying size-problems are all in the woman's mind. This is absurd. It has always been known that not all women are big enough for all men.
The vagina is completely different in the way it functions during chilbirth-it really is bigger. You can not make it much bigger than it is.
I wish people would be less patronizing.
Has anyone quantified the difference in the number or articles relating to the penis and it's size and the number relating to the vagina? It's insane!
Hy Anath: Thanks for popping by. Actually, I have sent a few cautious text messages to her. She has had "good news" whatever the heck that means? I will find out more soon! It's taking a long time! I guess we all wanna know now! LOL! Thanks for the visit, Anath!
Hy Starchild. You might be referring to the Hymen, something that every girl on earth has so far as I know. That what you are mentioning here? Or is it something else entirely?
I dont believe in voodoo, and doubt anyone can influence your health or wellbeing in that way.
I can't say at present what might be the cause, as she is seeking professional advice. The hub here does offer some possible theories, however.
Now that you mention it, there are several hubs around that refer to penis enlargement but this hub that I have here is the only one dealing with this subject matter.
I agree there is an annoying tendency to deal with some matters but not others in this world. That's life for you.
I welcome all opinions here, provided they are clean and decent enough. Thanks for these comments! If you feel exercised enough about any issues, a real good thing would be to join Hub Pages, as it its free and you can have all kindsa hubs about all kindsa stuff!
It's a Democracy here in Hub Pages! Apreciate the comments! Take care!
Hi Cheeky Girl, I know how she is feeling and I love to meet her. Sex isn't everything, it's more about the love that someone can show her. I myself have a small penis and my ex made me feel really bad sometime during sex because of my size. Funny part was she told me that I was the best lover she ever had but she still wanted to be filled up, well as you can see it didn't last. I gave her six years of my life and I then realized I had to move on. I haven't had sex with a woman in about 10 years and the only thing I miss is having someone to hold and spend time with. One day maybe I will find that person maybe someone like your friend and then I can enjoy life. Take care and tell your friend that there are men out there who wish they could have her.
There is more in life than sex.....Your friend may find someone which could make her more happy even with that situation.....great hub......thanks for sharing
Hy jeffinnewjersey: How are things in New Jersey?! Well, size can be a serious thing. Mostly people get to hear about men issues, but seldom women size issues. I was surprised with some of the feedback here. It just goes to show. You have my sympathies, Jeff. Best of luck finding the lady of your dreams and with hopefully the appropriate other "accoutrements" too. 10 years is a long time to go "without". Hope it works out for you. Cheers.
Hy borge_009: Yes, there is more to life than nooky. My friend is a nice person, and her boyfriend, whom I have also met, seems like a nice guy too. I think he is the patient type, or has become the more patient type perhaps. In life, we have to adapt to situations. Thanks for checking out my hub, and for your comments too!
My ex-wife divorced me because I was too big for her. Mind you, she always weighed at least 135 pounds and was 5' 4" but I guess when we really got down to it fast and hard so I could "finish" it would bruise her internally. She never once told me what was going on either.
(I love your disclaimer, by the way, not that it would help if some prude flagged your hub.)
Its good to hear that cheeky girl that your friend is okay now...thanks
@ Phoenix Files: You have my sympathies. She never told you what was going on? Wonder why? We all look for that special person, and that ideal "match". We can ever underestimate the physical relationship. It is sad when things go the way you describe. I wish you well for the future. Cheers.
@ borge_009: Hy borge, thanks again. Yes, she is happy about something, and I will know soon. I'll update or amend the hub as I get the info. Thanks for the comments!
I really enjoyed your hub Cheeky Girl! I hope your friend feels better now...
You gave great advice in the second half of this hub. Thanks!
Thankyou Lisi: I sure appreciate the kind wished here for my friend. I am meeting her in the next few days for a major update. As to the advice, whew! Thanks, I was really trying to think of stuff there! Heh! Glad to have your comments, moi friend!
You mean 'your friend' dumps guys because they are too large? You realise she could make a FORTUNE dumping guys, complete with a 'you're too big for me' certificate.
Or she could just use her imagination instead....
Hy Lisa Lisa: What a wonderful imagination you have. Thanks for commenting.
Maybe the only choice she have is being with a pencil size guy. Poor girl, must be really hard.
Hy lala: Well, I may have some news about the girl in question and the guy too. I will be adding some info to this hub in the next few days. I have had good news!!! Stay tuned!
Not being able to be intamite with the one she cares about must be torture,I hope things things get better keep us posted.
Well Hello Alya! I spotted a link in your profile to my profile! Aaaw! Thankyou so very much! You are so decent to do this!! You gets A Gold Star for that! : )
She is not able to be intimate with her boyfriend a certain way. The "All-the-Way" way actually. For her yes it is very darned annoying. I met her recently and it is driving her around the bend. But I am meeting her next week and she has "good news" for me. She has seen an expert and there is light at the end of the tunnell, if I can use that analogy without anyone laughing. But she cancelled a few appointments. We will get there soon! Gosh - everyone is dying to know here!
I wish your friend and her guy well. I found this hub very interesting along with the comments. We are all different and the differences are many and varied. I just hope the couple you refer to have found the highest of the 4 levels of love and magic happens without sex..... and WOW when it finally does!
Hy Neil: Aw that's sweet! Thankyou for that, Neil. It has been interesting to write about too. Yes, I think I know the thing you are talking about. I am smiling here. I saw a DVD earlier tonight with Sly Stallone called Demolition Man with Sandra Bullock. They made love wearing things on their heads and putting their hands together, and Sly started getting all these strange "vibes" and then broke the connection. It just popped in here, so that's why I'm smiling! Heh! Well, it would make some lives easier, I guess. But then some films are just nutty as a fruitcake. Yes, there are many paths to love and romantic fulfillment. I will finally know the outcome to this situation for my friend in the next few days. I am optimistic for them. They are a lovely couple after all! Cheers for the comments, Neil! x
Hi Cheeky Girl, You're a great friend by the advice you gave your friend and it's great she's now seeking expert help. I don't have the same problem as your friend, but I am a petite women and I agree with you that you can't underestimate the importance of physical compatibility. For me, I have found in the past some boyfriends were just too big for me and it causes too much pain during and afterwards to be enjoyable - and these kind of things can affect an otherwise wonderful relationship. Guys often want to boast about how big they are - for me that just makes me want to run away scared!!!
Hello, my friend strictlydating! Great to get your comment here! Aw, well we did go to school together so we go back a ways, as they say. I kind of wracked my brains looking for things to think of, but honestly I am not an expert on this. I was really trying to cover all the more obvious suggestions to a pretty unusual situation. Well she is Petite and short too. (Five foot two inches) She has a very nice boyfriend and he is remarkably understanding - despite what some above comments said to the contrary. I am glad your comment is here because I have an update to this hub.
The lady friend is question has been told that with simple physical therapy and massage and relaxation techniques, she can alleviate SOME but not ALL of the symptoms of having a small vagina. It is just a simple case of her being unusually small in that department, and there is nothing medically she can do. But she is attending a therapy class for her and her boyfriend and they are gettng to deal with it. And without getting to detailed or exact, or rude or whatever, they have "...managed to get things working okay."
Wow, I am very relieved to hear this, and she told me she will let me know what kind of therapy it involves. (It seems to be exercises like stretching and such...)
Anyway, your timing is great and I hope you read the response here. I am adding it to the end of the hub anyway.
I agree about guys boasting about the Big size and how great they are, but its a pity they don't realise they are scaring off great potential catches like your good self, if I may be allowed to say! Heh!
Thankyou for the comments here. I really appreciate them!
Thanks Cheeky Girl, and it's great to hear your friend has made some progress!
Aw, thankyou, my friend! It's nice to see people like you being concerned for others, like my friend mentioned above -it gives me a sense of hope here too. I genuinely appreciate the kind comment, and I'm sure my friend appreciates it too! Cheers! : )
Wow, I too am very petite, 5 feet 4 in, very small frame, and only 100 lbs. I never developed properly during puberty due to my autoimmunity (hormonal). In any area, upper and lower, lol. Sex was pretty painful in the past but doable with lots of work from my partner. :) Giving birth naturally really seemed to take care of the problem with more hormones, hips spreading, and further female development. Sex can still be painful if there isn't enough lubrication and foreplay ahead of time. I developed my own natural hormonal treatment for my autoimmune disorder that has put me in remission, developed breasts naturally, and has helped tremendously "down there". Wonder if some kind of hormone treatment would help her along with her therapy, almost sounds like she didn't develop completely for child bearing years like myself.
Hello She-rah: wow, you sound like you are in a similar situation to my friend that I mentioned in the hub above. Well your partner has the patience of a saint. Being petite and "small"-ish can be a challenge for some women. You seem to have achieved what she is also looking to achieve. And she is getting good guidance on it too. I guess the hormone treatment is one definite way of sorting it - I am glad it worked out for you okay. I am fascinated by how you developed your own hormonal treatment. You must have nutritionist teaching or references to work from or medical / health-related background. I am glad it worked for you, She-rah. She has told me that apparently far more women suffer from this than we know. She mentioned something about hormone treatment, but she was put off by something, think she mentioned body-hair or something being a possible side-effect. It is an interesting subject, and there are possible solutions, just a matter of choosing the appropriate one for the person. Thank you for a most insightful comment. I appreciate it. I will mention the Hormonal treatment to her again. Cheers!
Hello, wanted to let you know that my story and how I developed my hormone treatment is published here on HP if you wanted to take a look. I didn't want to link drop in your comments section, of course, you can put my links on your hub if you want. :) Thought you might want to take a look at my series about my autoimmune disorder. Yes, I'm very aware of the side effects of prescription hormones which is why I developed my cream, synthetics can be very dangerous. My treatment has nothing but great benefits for women and thought that your friend might want to know about the herb I use. My education is sadly mentioned in part 4 of my series, if you're curious. My treatment is really great and I finally, for the first time, have a feminine figure and am much better "down there". Natural child birth was possible for me because of the huge increase in hormones during pregnancy but it didn't come without excruciating pain and significant damage (lots of stitches, separated pelvis, dislocated tailbone, and my right hip plate shifted out of place). I couldn't have pain meds either. I certainly understand the not so great things about being so petite. I had scarring and nerve damage "down there" so orgasms required lots of work. My husband is wonderful and very patient in more ways than I could say. My hormone treatment has repaired the scarring, nerve damage, etc. so now it is possible for me to have "multiples" if you know what mean, lol. The difference in sensation is amazing, loving it and so is my husband, he's not having to work near as hard, poor guy. Best of luck to your friend!
Hello She-rah: I am impressed that you have put this on your hub pages, so yes I will check this out! My friend will be also very interested in reading this. I understand about the side effects and that is always going to be a part of most medical treatments, I guess. Congrats on the feminine figure and having the curves vback must be a relief! That will boost your confidence a lot! I noticed my friends confidence had been reallyhit badly by this thing. It's tought to have to deal with this, she was going through hell - I know she is crazy about the guy she is with.
You sound like you have really been through a tough experience, She-rah. The hip and the stitches - that's tough. The hormone treatment sounds the business! And yes, the multiples are amazing! Way to go, my friend! LOL! That sounds like heaven to any woman, I think! Glad your hubby is not having to work that hard! Well don't wear him out, ok? Heh! I am just kidding here! I am happy for you, you sound like you have been through a lot of difficulty. I am glad you are over that chapter in your life. I hope my friend is as lucky overcoming her situation. Relationships are so important. Sounds like you have a great husband there. Take care. I will check the hubs! : )
bloody hell that's terrible for this woman. I thought the tighter the better but if nothing can go in then Houston we really do have a problem! She should probably have a baby so it widens a bit or get someone that would just use their mouths to stretch (heheh I would suggest you but I know you ain't available for that!)
Here In Brazil we have a traditional herbal remedy for that derived from the Amazon Basin. She should definitely get some sort of remedy to widen it a bit.
Great hub, enjoyed reading it a lot xx
Hy Mamelody: I am trying not to chuckle at the Houston bit mentioned here, but she is actually doing okay now, moi friend. She and her boyfriend are apparently doing fine, and she is getting treatment. Who know - maybe she might actually get preggers after all. I am rooting for her. Ooh, that sounds a bit odd, well - you now what I mean. And the mouth thing is duly noted, moi Brazilian friend!! Heh! What a woman you are! : ) Care to spill the beans and tell me what the remedy is? Is it worth putting up here? Is it decent? All I know about the Amazon basin is the mass deforestation that happens. I think she ...uh... had that done too, but I can't be sure! LOL! (Okay, no more funny stuff cos the woman in question is moi friend!) Glad you are enjoying the hub Mamelody! I always love seeing you here in moi hubs! xx
Actually my Grandmother said she got a couple of herbs from the plantain trees there added some leaves from a tree called "bluegum" she mixes it with Chinese Opium, grinned ginger and Aloe Vera. You can either rub it down there and leave it till it burns a bit.. The burn expands the entrance or you can mix it in bathing water and soak in there for at least three hours. Either way you will feel a sensational burn which is uncomfortable but guarantees results. Thats how my Granny makes here living.. people from all walks of live come to her with their sexual and body problems.
But she keeps her actual way of performing these remedies a secret.. No amount of bribes can get her to give it out.. she says she will take it to the grave unless she can find someone trustworthy to carry on her wisdom in this. I've been trying to be that trustworthy person but after thirty years am still being interviewed!!!
By the way am glad your friend is making progress and do keep us updated..
Wow, the Bluegum thing sounds interesting. I never heard of that before. That's a strange and unusual mix of ingredients indeed! Well, if it worked - so much the better! Sounds impressive. Your Granny sounds like an interesting person! Wow! You still being interviewed, haw? Well, I wish you luck with that! Sounds like she has a few recipes up her sleeve!
Don't worry, I will keep the hub up to date and let you know when I am talking to her again. She said she will give me an update on her "treatment" when we meet up. She is doing okay now. And what is also important is that she and her hunky boyfriend are happy together! Thanks for the comments here. It's nice to see people so concerned for her. Thanks for this! : )
Coming back to check on the updates. Glad to read that your friend is coping better these days.
Are you serious Mamelody?
Hello Anath: Glad to see your comments, Anath. Yes, my friend is doing very well. She is "coping better" a lot apparently! Heh! I am happy for her. I will let Mamelody answer that above!! : )
i have something called a pelvic floor disorder, which means the muscles are too tight and i basically need physical therapy. why is there a stigma that it is impossible for vaginas to be too small/tight? makes me sad, no one knows about this and it probably affects a lot of women!
Hello turtle711: I have never heard of this particular thing, and I am grateful for the information. I am sure there are other women who have a similar situation. Sadly there is a stigma as you say, and some disinformation around ladies who have small vaginas and possible issues attached. With compassion and understanding, men and women can be more aware and sympathetic towards women with this. And learning how to deal with it is important. Some ladies are reluctant to mention it publicly. I understand this totally. I appreciate you telling this here, and I hope the therapy works for you okay. Thank you for this comment. I hope it helps people.
Hi Cheeky
Interesting problem or would I say 'awful'
I agree with Mr. James Watkins that there ARE men who are small........maybe she could join an online dating site and post in her profile she is very small and "looking for an under endowed guy"...lol
But I'm sure those men would LOVE to meet her.
Alot of men like 'tight' women too..not that tight thou
Some women are very large and this turns off men too.
Hmm :) well, luckily most of us men, and women are inbetween
Thanks for the interesting hub :D
Hy schoolgirlforreal: Is it interesting or is it awful. I guess it depends if it is us or some other person. It's something I never gave much thought to actually until my friend came and told me about it over coffees, as we were catching up on what we've been doing with our lives recently.
She is alas no the online dating kind of lady. She is happily in a relationship with a long term boyfriend. As for men and "tight" women. Yes, guys do go for that. But does that mean that they are too well endowed and on the large side or they just saying that to show off.
I have been known to be disappointed in the past myself. Perception versus reality. Reality didn't quite measure up alas. Heh! I am not worried or complaining. The physical attributes are but one aspect of a relationship with a person we like. Or love. The more we like, the more we look for reasons to continue to like. How much is too much of something or how much is not enough, I wonder? An interesting topic, perhaps. I smell another hub in there somewhere, maybe. I won't ask you what you define as inbetween, then! LOL! Great comments here! Thank you for this! Take care!
You were a very helpful friend. GBY
Hello stars439: glad to get your comment, moi friend. That's mighty nice of you. Blessings to you too! : )
OH my God! Cheeky Girl.The girl can find a person who really loves her even though of her problem.
Hy Lolo: yes - she has a wonderful understanding guy in her life, and he is the real deal. Yes, it is wonderful!
Very interesting. I have sometimes wondered if petite women are very small down there ie going too deep would hurt, but I didn't realise that they could be very narrow too. I wonder if anxiety about it is tightening the muscles too making things worse? I have also observed that men are often smitten with petite women (don't know why?) - sometimes quite tall men - not sure if that is any indication of their size elsewhere :)
Small pelvis etc could make childbirth difficult. I have a petite friend that was ripped to shreds giving birth the first time. The second time was easier, because "stretched".
Hy Baileybear: it is petite women who have some worries about size issues more than most women. The narrowness thing can be problematic. And for some it is not an issue. There is the real possibility of bruising and worse with the "smallness" issue. Small pelvic measurements can mean some women have to opt for Caesarian section rather than natural birth delivery since the woman in question would be just too small in size. It is a thorny issue. Yes big guys who are with petite women - although I am unsure about the size issue for the men. Men are smitten by beauty of any size, I imagine. So tall or short, it's all part of the attraction of women.
I'm so happy I found this, I thought I was the only one who was going through this. It really sucks when your finally prepared to have sex or you feel like you are just to find out that your vagina is too small, and all my boyfriend told me I needed to relax, but that wasn't the case because mostly all of them were quite large and we never got anywhere. So this really helped, and I'm going to take to my doctor about it so I can see about fixing this problem. Thanks this was very insightful, and glad to her that everything is going good for your friend now, I hope I'm as lucky as her. And hopefully I'll be able to trully have sex for once.
Would it be just the entrance that is very narrow in some women? In this case, possibly helped by surgery? And of course, if anxious, everything can tighten up. I have heard that even average sized women can have thickened skin etc down below from horse-riding etc - I met one that was torn badly in childbirth for this reason. And some women have very thick hymens covering the entrance, which could be minor surgery as opposed to a tear attempting to have painful sex? As for the walls of the vagina, they are very expandable allowing for childbirth - I know many petite women that have given birth naturally, even ones with small hips - everything widens a bit in pregancy, and widens a lot after childbirth. I saw somewhere about a cushioned ring that can fit on the base of the penis for a woman that is much shorter than her partner
Hy Baileybear: it can be the "entrance" and it can be the "depth" as well, which are not large enough. Anxiety is a real issue, probably even more for first-timers. Who wouldn't be anxious? I know a woman who is a serious horse-rider and she has kids, so I don't think this is an issue. Women who ride horses have superb balance and are very fit around the waist and back, and are well developed. The hymen usually comes away after the first "time" with their partner. But some have become pregnant with the hymen partly intact. I am amazed how the female body works and how the miracle of life finds a way. Either that, or couples try very hard indeed!
The ring, I seem to have seen that mentioned somewhere, but I have no knowledge of it. Sounds interesting. Yes, petite women can go on to give birth quite naturally, and need not be really afraid of childbirth. The body adapts and widens at the hips and accommodates the movement of the baby. All women should know the basics of how the body works during pregnancy. Might even be a hub in that somewhere! Thanks for your comments, Baileybear!
Wow, this hub speaks directly to me. I'm really petite but I'm generally attracted to guys over 6' tall! When I was younger, I used to feel like sex with me was a burden because of how slow I had to take it and all the hangups I had, but I've overcome most of them due to a particular boyfriend I once had. Rock on. :)
How does your friend feel about it at this stage. I would hate to be in that situation. I'd imagine that it would really annoy guys and I'm surprised they weren't aware earlier on. It's hard, sometimes.
How many people would be affected by this (1 in ?)?
Hy roleplayer: I agree, that the bigger the guy, the bigger the possibility of the burden. And yes, tall guys like petite women too (though some prefer women near their own size too). I am glad you had one particular boyfriend who must have been so decent and all. That can be a big help and confidence booster too. This hub seems to have struck a chord with a few ladies here alright. So it is an issue for women. But it is something that can be dealt with, with proper advice and a good understanding man too! I am very heartened by your comments, roleplayer. Thanks for this.
Hy infonolan: how does she feel about it? She is okay with it, so far as I know, based on what she tells me. She has read my hub, and said I handled her "anonymity" very well. (!) And I have managed not to embarrass her. She has read all these comments here. She finds them informative. (Actually she is totally impressed with Hub Pages.) She has a great relationship with her boyfriend who is now engaged to her. They are calm and sensible about the size thing. I think he had a lot to do with her being okay about the physical things, as she was worried about "expectations". From previous relationships with guys, she found some of them annoyed about the size thing. But some more understanding.
She is very happy she went and got professional help from an expert on such matters, and that put her more at ease. (She used to have a slight hang up, but no more.) She would like to eventually have children.
She totally inspired this hub, and I am glad she helped with the end of it, too. Oh, how many people would be affected - I do not know, and I am afraid to guess. It is more common than I thought. Bottom line - get expert advice about it. It really pays to do this. Cheers for the comments!
I do respect your friends issue and yet this is a common issue for us ladies when first starting this journey. Maybe she should explore a relationship with another women, she may need to come out of the closet. Size can def be an issue and it is more common than some are willing to admit but finding what really turns you on is key, we all have to have things stretched and even torn when we find what we absolutely must have, lets face it pain comes into play and maybe she's affraid of pain, many people are. But when it comes to this matter pain and pleasure are def related, you want the right person to cut loose and make it work. The pleasure marries with the pain magically and we come to fit and even after periods of seperation, without it can become a challenge again, but with passion and love for the other person you manage and enjoy the pleasure pain experience all over again. I've heard of this. Best wishes to all of those and James included. I hope you all find a person that matches you and your needs.
Hy Katie: it sure is more common than we realised. On the closet thing. My good friend is straight and happily engaged to her hunky guy now! I am very happy for her! She is definitely not in any closet. Her issues stemmed from the size matter when it came to physical relations with previous boyfriends. It was about her being too small rather than them being too big. Her fiance is a sweet guy. I met him. They are very in love! *smiles here*
Things tend to naturally loosen up with "use" - if I can say that, and with experience. Managing the pain is an interesting point, but since is it so associated with the pleasure side of relationships, it is often overlooked. Yes, they are so related to each other! You are right to bring this up, Katie.
I don't think she is afraid of the pain thing, just the pain of losing boyfriends in the past. She was right to get counseling and advice on it. It really cleared up any doubts she was having. (It was putting a strain on the relationship.) She is a new woman now, Katie.
Thanks for the nice wishes here. She reads here so will see them. Cheers! And yes, having the person in our life who is our match is a godsend, don't you think!! : )
I hope things are okay with you too, Katie. Thanks for the very interesting comments! You are very understanding. I am always glad to get your input here.
Cassy, I think these comments are great. They compliment this hub on petite size women very nicely. You really raised the subject without descending into what sometimes happens in the forums. An intelligent hub. Thoughtfully done. I have to confess, you know how to make hubs. xx
Hy Astra! Busy day in Hub Ville! Yes, it's great to get them, the opinions are varied and have great suggestions. Don't mention the forums, as they can be a wild place, like a safari park...real lions roam about! Heh! Aw, Cathy cheer up! You are a cool writer! It's coming together for you here in Hubs! You sure know how to write poetry, honey. People love quality. You are Quality. :D XOXOX
Hi Cheeky Girl, thank you for sharing this, I had no idea such a condition existed. You have written this so well. I really enjoyed reading it.
Hy Angela: I am happy to share here. Um yes, the condition exists alright. I wish it didn't. Well, I am no expert, I did try to cover all the angles though. This has had a lot of comments and they have helped it a lot too, some good opinions there, Angela. I'm glad you enjoyed reading it too. Cheers. Take care.
pretty amazing hub you got here, some women do have the size issue and some blame men for being 'large', when in fact its the woman who is too small. i will check more of your writing around here, cheeky.
Hy Jonjelina: interesting name, know any Angelina's by any chance? Just kidding. This is true and you could also add, that some men are small too, but that's another hub, another time perhaps. Yes, check out my hubs and hey - leave me a comment. Cheers! :)
The lady is question has now read my hub, and she is dumbstruck by this Hub Page. She wants me to thank everyone for the lovely positive comments. She is a fan in her own way! Cheers!
Although i havent fully read this article; it is great. I used to have the same problem. I worked out litterally 5 times a week. And had problems "getting it in" with my boyfriend.
Certain excersizes make the vagina muscles contract. Open and close open and close. This--like a work out too for the vag. being that its made up of muscles. as soon as I stopped the over-excessive work-out routines, I came to find out, It can go in!
I just began doing simple stuff, i dropped areobics, and bought a bicycle, when im tired of bike-riding I go running.
It was a win/win situation.
I feel so sorry for her; i know she can find a way. She just has to find a man whos patient and willing to do what it takes to get her "open" relaxed. and comfortable.
Sometimes--its usually a mental thing.
Yup.
wow
im going to finish reading now and probably comment again.
mwas!
-nikki
I too am extremely little.
Im 5'3" 106 llbs.
Exceptionally tiny.
dont cha think? lol
Hy Nikki: I hope I am spelling your name right here. Please tell me if I am not! (It's KK in a few other hubs I spotted! Cheers!) Thanks for the great detailed reply! Yes, reading both your comments, you are probably petite, is that right? And so perhaps you have - like my friend - had a similar experience. And you make a great point, there are muscles in there, we all have them. The more use we make of them, the better.
The partner we have can make all the difference. She is lucky, she has a lovely guy that she is engaged to now! I am so happy for her. Sometimes it can be a mental rather than psychological thing, as some girls take time to get relaxed. Things go better for girls that way, more than guys naturally!
Sorry to hear you had trouble with the guy in your life, hope he is the understanding type. Maybe have him read this, and he'll know that it's more common than he realises. I really wrote this hub to just make more people or couples aware of this.
Five foot three, yes you are rather tiny alright. But it's the person more than just the appearance! Heh! You are funny! Well, take a bow, moi friend! :)
Cheers! And don't get a hang up on this thing, for petes sake. It's fixable! (if you get my drift!)
Mwaahs too! :D
i feel your drift; lol.
please congradulate your friend on her engagement, on my behalf! Im so happy for her, not many people get married anymore nowadays.
^_^ Yes, he was very patient with me. We've been together for quite sometime now, he's my longest relationship---EVER. lol
thanks for making me feel better about my tiny-ness! haha, it really is the person underneath it all!
I'll be snooping through your hubs ;]
talk you you soon, oh yeah btw;;
it is Nikki, I didnt realize I spelled my own name wrong on my account. lol But you can call me Nika [thats what my family calls me--my real name is Janika (juh-neek-uh) lol its all up to you.
mwaszz again
-Nikki [Nika] lol whatever-clever.
Hello Nikki! Yes, she is engaged a few months now. I am so happy for her. Aw, I don't think marriage is totally out of vogue just yet! LOL! You have an understanding boyfriend there, and you are lucky, so hold onto that guy!! Heh! I am like Astra, a romantic at heart. And ever the optimist. My glass is always half full of something. Rum, Jack Daniels, you get the picture. Heh!
Aw, does the tinyness thing really matter? Yes, it is the person inside, if I may say that in a perfectly good way. Its how we feel about ourselves, and how others can influence that too...including the boyfriends, or girlfriends if need be...
Feel free to browse moi hubs, Nikki. (Thanks for the name update, Cheers! Hey, Nika is cool! I will do that, and you can call me Cassy too! :)
A name is everything, I think! Cheers, Nika! XX
In medical science this problem is known as vagnismus .Many people may find it funny but many women may face this problem. I heard Key gel is the best thing to get rid of these problem
Hello tnvrstar, I never heard of this word. Tanks for the tip. Sounds worth checking out. Small size women should not have to suffer. Cheers!
Wow ... Never considered the ramifications of petite women and sex ... Interesting to say the least.
Hy trusouldj, I am glad you find my hub interesting. It is very much a real thing. Thanks for the comments!
I'm 149 cm, just a bit under 5 feet and I have no problem having sex, so yeah ~
Hy Whutever, the hub is more geared to women who may encounter issues with their own size versus the usual reasons, thanks for the comments. Maybe you might write some hub pages yourself! Just a suggestion. People get paid income from ads on their Hub Pages.
A rather useful Hub,
Learn something new every day .
This can be a real fall for some people
but I am glad its all worked out in the end ..
Great HUB thanks for sharing, I was not aware of so much of this
Hy Leptirela, I'm glad you found my hub useful. Yes, it is a real condition for women and it is not talked about much. I know it is a subject not spoken of openly. And that is a wee problem in itself, as some women are suffering needlessly in silence. So I thought it was time to gently broach this tricky subject. Thanks for the comments.
Yes, for my friend, it has worked out, and things are great now. Cheers! :)
I just came across this post by accident, but I wanted to make a couple of comments from a mans perspective.
First I will say that I sympathize with any women, can't really say empathize can I, that has any issue with not being able to engage in normal sexual relations with her man for whatever reason.
I have had a number of sexual partners (women) that have intimated to me that having sex with me is painful because of my size.
You might think that a man would be flattered, but it you want to have sex with someone you care about and it is a painful experience for them then it it a painful, if only mentally, for you as well.
Maybe surgery is the answer for the women, not sure that is an option for the men, but then what happens if she meets a man who she loves who is small? Then what?
Now not being a women I don't know if this is an option, but doesn't the vagina stretch and get larger with use? Isn't it possible to slowly over time to increase the size by using dildo's of increasing size? With plenty of lubricant of course.
I also agree with the other comments about there being other things in a relationship besides sex, but whenever I hear that I think yes that is true, but that does not make for a lasting and satisfying relationship.
I wish the subject of this posting the best of luck and hope that everything turns out well for her.
Hello Mike: well the good news is the lady in question is happy that things have turned out for the better. It is tough for women who suffer with the size issue. It is a sensitive subject. Women who experience small guys - that tends to jump off into other areas and here I just confined the issue to this friend who had the smallness issue. Perhaps the other areas might be covered by other hubs of other hubbers here.
The body can adapt and it is flexible but only so much. What is gratifying in this case is that the couple worked out the issue maturely, and they are happy together now. It can happen to petite women. Thanks for the good wishes here too. Great comments, Mike.
Thank you to all the comment makers for the excellent comments made to this hub. And thank you for keeping it decent too. Cheers! And the Lady in question of whom this is related to says a warm thank you too. Viva Hub Pages!
What a thorough and well-written article! As a woman of a certain age and experience, I know that the average woman is built to birth a 10 pound baby, and that includes the 10 pound baby's head! Tension and stress can remove any possibility of having normal intercourse for a variety of reasons. And of course, as you say, some men are just very big in size for even the average woman. Given all that, I think you provided many great suggestions for her to consider. Voted up and useful!
Hy ExoticHippieQueen! The average woman is maybe better equipped to handle the big task of carrying and giving birth to a 10Lb baby. And I love babies. Weirdly, some young women I know refer to go for the C section rather than have the delivery of the baby the normal way.
Like my friend mentioned in the hub, some just find the prospect of having a baby too painful and it is interesting that you mention this in your comment. There is a correlation between women who shy away from birth via the natural way versus women who's hips are wide enough to handle the delivery of the infant.
Petite women have a good argument for being nervous about having babies, especially if the woman is too "small" in the area in question. You raise some good points! Cheers for this! Thanks for the vote!
Never heard of such a thing, but very interesting.
Hey Matt, you live and learn! Thanks for commenting!
I wonder what my size is coz I am only 5'3 LOL This is an excellent hub and topic Cassy. Definitely one of your hottest..I'm glad your friend is OK now. :) Rated all the sizes... ;)
Hey Fehl! Er, your size? Okay, maybe that makes you Petite too! I wrote this hub quite a while back and it still gets decent traffic. Lots of women learn from it. Happily my friend is getting married this year to the gorgeous guy in her life! Yes, I met him! LOL!
Yup this is one of my hottest, the ads were knocked off by Hubs but that's life! LOL! You rated all the sizes? Aw man, that is wicked! LMAO! You're a babe! XOX
this is one in a million that's why :) I wonder if there are advertising ways that allow any topic like this.
H'mm, well there is the option of putting it on my own Website! Maybe I should.... Cheers Fehl! Thanks for the comments!
I think this is more common than we realize. Nothing is worse than finding someone that your compatible with and connect on all levels, but unable to consumate with sexually. You can still have emotional and physical intimacy, but without being able to conjugate it would be very frustrating. Interesting hub Cassie!
Glad Augustine shared this so I can share this true story which may offer hope to any too "small to have relations" women who might see your hub Cheeky Girl. For a short while I once dated a woman who was attractive, kinda funny, and just normal in every way except her pubic bones- if that's what the two bump-like protuberances are called- were abnormally close together which excluded her from having intercourse. Her condition was well known in the town and I often heard other girls talking about her and not always in a sympathetic manner. At any rate I felt sorry for her and one night we had relations "around" that area. She was over joyed and kept saying "you did it, you did it!" This must have given her confidence for maybe a year later I read in the paper were she had married and maybe a year after that were she had actually given birth to a child, presumably by C-section. So, hopefully any woman with this type condition who can't afford corrective surgery or whatever will take heart that happiness can still be found regardless.
Hey Augustine, I agree. Nothing can be worse than this! It is such a big issue with petite women. Just because we might not mention it in ordinary conversation does not lessen its importance. Thanks for checking out moi hub on small women who can't have sex.
Hy Alastar, sorry to hear about that experience. That must have been tough. But true enough the C- section has saved a lot of women from an awful fate, and saved many babies too. She obviously got over the initial problem. And I am glad for her sake.
Somehow it can be so good when we find that there is another way. Thanks for the comments! Cheers! :)
This hub is very popular and I appreciate everyone keeping this decent and being mature about it. Thanks so much.
Petite women do not need to give up. There are some great suggestions in this discussion. Voted up and useful. Wish there was a category very useful.
Cheers seanorjohn! No petite women have hope! It's only some who are affected. I wrote this from a "lay person's" viewpoint. No point being all expert and medical when I am not qualified. Just trying to talk reasonably about a real topic in real language.
Yes, there is no category for this kind of hub! Typical! LOL!
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prettydarkhorse Level 2 Commenter 2 years ago
Cheeky my girl, I enjoyed this one, I have seen sex toys when I went to Netherlands, but never used them LOL, nice and great hub I read it twice, hehe, am very petite you know, Maita