Why we need change - why we hate change
89Why do we have to sometimes change just to be who we really are? When we are trying to be successful or trying to accomplish something in our life, have you ever noticed that one of the first things that happens is that we get told we should not do the thing, or we get asked why we are doing it? And what are we doing it for? Have you ever been a husband or wife in a relationship or someone’s partner and have decided to do something but everyone is telling you not to do it? And they are telling you to leave things the way they are.
Have you ever read the news or watched TV and seen how some bunch of people are agitating against their government in some far off country, trying to get something done and having to get someone’s attention? Because they are trying to get something changed? What do they all have in common? They are all discovering that people don’t like change. Change can be very precarious. The change business can be intense, challenging, uncomfortable, and can even threaten the status quo in ways many people either don’t want, or just don’t like. The bottom line is – change is seen as bad. Imbalance in things creates change. An imbalance or situation of inequality, or an uncertainty or improbable principle can all cause a desire for change. We can disagree with an idea or ideology and want change as a result. Many things can make change possible. They can be random or ordered.
We are curious creatures, who hate things to change. We hate having to adapt to new things. We hate having to introduce new rules, having to bring in a new system of thinking and new procedures. Human thinking and behaviour works around the concept of “comfort” We become comfortable with a thing and we settle into it and we don’t want it to change. We become very used to it, and we eventually become conditioned by the thing, so that we will do almost anything to keep ourselves in that position. It is a curious inevitability of human behaviour. We are also social creatures, and are part of the pack, so the pack mentality is to all want the same thing. We naturally gravitate towards the stronger group thinking. And thus we arrive at an important concept in human behaviour, group thinking. We tend as people to get things to suit us, to suit the system, and to facilitate our group thinking. It’s almost like having the weather always bow to our whim. Except that of course, the weather does not bow to our whim at all. The weather is a force of nature, it does its own thing.
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So just why do we have to change just to be who we are? Sometimes, when we have an opportunity to see something new, and we experience the new thing, we make discoveries. Some things happen. They might be good things, because we see the difference in the thing, and how it is better for us or better for others. Or we find it improves things in other ways. We always make a useful discovery in times like this. We then have a dilemma on our hands.
Our dilemma is in what we ought to do about the thing? Should we just observe the change, make a note of it and do nothing, just leaving our own circumstances generally as they are? Or do we take the other option, and decide to adapt that change into our own circumstance or the position of others and gradually introduce the change so as to improve the group circumstances for others and make things better, provided of course that they are willing to allow it?
Seeing change happen somewhere else and seeing how beneficial it can be is often a great experience. It can be an empowering experience. It can be even frustrating to see how by changing, other people and other systems seem to advance and do better than others. Or do better than us, by moving forward in some way. We are all human. We all want things to change if we see the real benefits. Those benefits can be so many things. And all because someone had the smart idea of changing something, and making things better somehow.
So what happens if other people don’t see it the way we do? What if they listen and try to imagine, but they just can’t see the possibilities that we see? What do we do then?
One thing we can do is try better to explain. We can be more patient in telling and stating the thing clearly and concisely, and by being honest about why we see the change as being genuinely better for everyone in the long term. The way or ways of changing people’s positions or circumstances can often be very hard. (This is why we have people called Lobbyists, to do it for us.) And sometimes, we fail to achieve it. Sometimes we just cannot explain or show the benefits of the thing, even though we know it will lead to better things.
We can all be in agreement about wanting a change when a change is needed, and just as likely, we can all disagree because we can hate a change or just not want the change to happen. Change only happens when people want change to happen. Change only becomes a possibility when our circumstances become so intolerable and so unacceptable that we just cannot carry on with the status quo any longer. Change never happens without consensus. By successfully changing group thinking, we can make change happen. But it only works when we all want it or when enough of us want it. The key to getting change to happen is to seek out those who are not happy with circumstances and by finding those who are disaffected and disenchanted enough to be willing to agree that a change is necessary. There has to be a point or purpose to change. A reason that will make sense, and a benefit that comes with the change, which people can clearly see. Change for no reason will be seen as just a shallow ploy. Real change happens with enough people agreeing that it is needed.
You may find something here that resonates with you in your life or work. It might touch on religion, or perhaps politics. Or you might find it relates to people you know, like family or friends. Change can be associated with divorce, beliefs, our sexuality, it can be about fashions, about art, theater or music. It touches on many human endeavors. The scale of change can be almost infinite. It can manifest itself in so ways. Every single one of us will have experienced different changes, the ones we did want as well as the ones we did not want. And the changes we made no matter how painful they were for us or others. We are all human. We are all driven by the same things. Understanding the dynamics of how groups think and how change can introduce uncertainty to the group is a fascinating subject, and it can help reveal many things about us. Our insecurities, or fears about things. Our being afraid of things we don’t understand. Change can be our teacher. We can learn from it. A key to change is in learning.
Sending our kids to school, just as we were sent to school as kids ourselves is something we almost take for granted. But yet we put children into a massive new situation where total change occurs, and we can imagine the seismic shift that follows as they discover all these amazing new things. New knowledge, new ways of understanding, new rules to learn. And learning new disciplines. Growth is associated with change. We learn to change. Growth is a by-product of change. Change is a thing we accept when we help control and organise change. Change is something we agree with when we have at some point undergone that change ourselves. Changing things for them can be good because it was good for us. Teaching and education tells us this. So some change is clearly very good.
There is massive debate over how change ought to happen in the group or in society. Some just force change upon us, while others will try to reason with us, and persuade us gently but firmly. Change is an art. And sometimes it is best left to the experts, or the leaders we agree to have.
As long as it is for our benefit and helps to improve things, change can be good. If we look for moments in times or in people’s lives where change brought about improvement, we can be often consumed with wanting to help bring about change. Get to understand how change affects us all. We cannot escape the clutches of change. It is like a magic bullet that gets us all eventually, even if we dodge and avoid it. Sometimes, just like with the Borg in the TV show Star Trek, “resistance is futile”. Experts who cannot change us quickly and suddenly, will opt to change us slowly over time, even if we refuse to go with the flow. So perhaps we are all affected by change after all. And change will happen no matter what we do. Even if people don’t want to go with the flow, they eventually do, though they may not realise it.
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Cheeky Girl change is always a tricky ordeal. You covered the roots and mindset of change well. I think the main reasion that people are so resistant to change is because they do not know the outcome of the change and people like control and not knowing an outcome always means a loss of control. And when people including myself do not know outcomes or have control that brings on fear. And I can only speak for myself when I say I have never made a good fear based decision.
And you said so well what I already know to be true in my life change only comes when the pain of staying the same is greater then the fear of the change. Have a great day my friend
Hello Neil! Very true saying. I like this. Yes, the Universe is constantly changing and we along with it. I felt we needed to have a hubs on the subject, and in simple language that anyone can understand. I know some people who deff don't like change in anything. Thanks for the comments, Neil. Have a great day and have a great weekend too. I hope you are well! : )
Hello tony0724: You are right, tony. People are resistant to any change when they don't know what the outcome is beforehand, it almost involves mental time travel. I understand about you saying fear-based decisions are never good or seldom come right, as I have found. Your last line there says it all. Wow, some great wisdom you have there. Cheers, tony. Thanks for the insight!
Oh by the way I found my digital camera and learned how to use it to CHANGE my pic. Give yourself a pat on the back ,a comment you made to me inspired me to do it !
Cassy, you never cease to amaze me. This is very easy to understand and follow. You explain how it all works so easily. Typical you. I can relate to so much of this, I'd be here all day saying how...but I think you know. Tony is right, you do inspire, and that's what we love about you. I think change is 100% inevitable. Just great writing. XOX
Change can be scary but is inevitable. Great hub!
Hey tony, I remember that time I suggested that! Heh! That was funny! Well you look like you just stepped off your Harley-David Motorcycle here with your cool shades! Cheers! :D
Astra, what can I say - I do moi best! : ) Aw, you guys are great! I feel the love here! *Chuckles* I think change is 10,000% absolute too! Thanks for this! XOXOX
HappyHer, you are right, yes, it can be scary, but that is life telling us to feel the fear and make the change anyway. It's my motto in life. (It's on my profile page) Thanks for the comments, my friend. Have a great weekend!
Ha change, I have seen so much change in 2 years, a heart attack and a seperation plus the recession, jeez is their no good changes going on. I dunno Cassy but I don't like change, me, I am who I am. A sarky old fart who likes his red wine despite the heart attack, bugger it if it kills me, like what boring fart wants to die of nothing, not moi. Do I sound dark tonight, perhaps, but I am bored, bored of writing, bored of the same old crap, even change is boring moi friend. Enjoy yer weekend xoxo
But, you are always warm and funny and cheerful too, Art! Anyone who can brighten a day like you do with your wit and hubs and lewd outragious laughs - only one person does hat here. It's me. Hehehehe! Okay, I meant - it's you! And we love ya for being who you are, and you are not afraid to be you. So don't change. Change is relative. If change gets boring, I'll just heck out your hubs to remind moi self that you are never boring! Go easy on the sauce but do enjoy your weekend, moi friend.
Life would not be the same without you. If you ever need a hug, we got plenty here for you! *Hugs ya like crazy*
Take care, Capn! XOXOX
P.s - we are looking forward to Simon thrilling us with expulsion from the "show" or whatever the format will be when "Mr Towel" arrives. You are full of surprises! :D
Change is rarely acceptable and welcomed for all the reasons you stated CG, unless WE are the ones MAKING the change!
Hello drbj: change happens, and we can go with it or fight it. Like fighting a referendum. I remember the irish rejected the EU Treaty and it was put to them again and they accepted it, pretty much the same as the first one. I think the Canadians call referendums "Neverendums", because politicians ram the thing through anyway. Consensus has a lot to do with change. Sometimes I have learned in business that when "We" think we are making the change, it has actually been arranged, planned or the idea implanted in our heads. We are all susceptible to the subtle art of gentle persuasion. I agree with your point, but there is an aspiration there too. Thanks for the comment.
Cassy I am writing one more hub about my top 20 Hubbers on Sunday then I am leaving Hubs, I am going back to Ciao.co.uk where I also had a great fanbase plus its English. I dunno but being banned from the Forums for something silly still pisses me off especially when others get awat with it. Hey I am Irish but I am a Brit and I am not being banned by an American, I gotta feelin you and lil Cathy might appear in my Goodbye Hub, take it easy on the sauce lol, my daughter says that all the time. You and Cathy have been like daughters to me and I love you both to bits but after my Sunday hub I am gone, been fun though, doncha think xoxo
(Still awake and chilling here) - Hy Art. I am genuinely sorry to hear that. I wonder is Ciao got room for 2 loose women like um, ...us, d'ya think? Heh! (Pretend ya didn't see that!) I know the forums thing is a royal pain in the you-know-what. (Thinks "why we need change..." - yeah, right!) Well, we will be here all weekend, Art. You are always in our thoughts, you know that. Aw, daughters...Art...you're making me get a lil' speck of somethin' in moi eye here. You are the real deal. You tell it like it is. I wish you success, wherever your ship docks. Art, enjoy your weekend. Wish you were changing your mind, but I know you better. Keep the faith, okay? (Wonder how long the damn ban is for anyway? I forgot / can't remember.)
Cheers Art. Bless you, moi good wonderful friend. Our friend! Yes, it has been fun, and we had some good laughs, majorly thanks to you!...
*Hugs and smiles always*
XOXOXOX From Us. :)
Wooo, was well tanked last night. Remind me I shouldnt even be drinking, I gotta change, loves ya, I have a sore head ; ) xoxox
.....yes you're right I have changed - dramatically - and for the better!!!!!
I am no longer following:
1. Banal Girl
2. Mediocre Girl
3. Tedious Girl
4. Ho Hum Girl
.....I am following the cheekiest one of the lot!!!!!
YOU!
Hello Art! A small bowl of hot chicken soup will put you right and take it easy, moi friend! They a glass of red wine a day is not a bad thing. I kind of like a glass with moi din dins!! Heh! You're a good guy, Art! You need a good woman to look after ya! :D Cheers! XOX
Hey epigramman: you HAVE changed! I must check if any of those hubbers exist - bet your just kidding me, right?! Heh! I see the compliment there. Always nice to have you here! Must check your hubs today, see what you've been up to! Cheers! :) XX
Cheeky Girl,
Great hub. I think change is good. If every person would change just one untruth about something, think what that would mean to the world.
Cheers
Oh that is sad about Art, is he serious this time? I don't want him to leave the Hubs. We miss you Art. Don't leave! Cassy, I am checking my new pic, it looks very hot / toasty kind of, can I get it more goldeney instead?? You getting lots of views. I love hub pages. XXXX
Hy always exploring: h'mm that is a very interesting thought you have there. What a wonderful idea! Thanks for this! Cheers!
Hy Astra - that is done now...so we'll try 'em out on your hubs! They are more "goldeney". That's not a word, you silly woman! Heh! XXXOX
Good to see another nice topic from you Cheeky Girl. Great elaboration on the change and is very much useful to many. Thank you for bringing up such a nice hub.
Hello theindianblues: glad to have your comment here, moi friend. You are becoming a regular here. Cheers! : ) Well, I like to vary the format a bit, makes things more interesting, have a nice variety to suit all kinds of interests here, and including yours. :D Take care!
Great writing about an important topic! The older I get, the more I see that being comfortable and unchallenged is dangerous.
Hello Lee B: thanks for the comments. Yes, there is a lot to be said for trying hard to avoid becoming too...(trying to find the word here...)..."lethargic". We do become more of that as we get older. Interesting point! Cheers!
Hi Cheeky, Go for change as long as you know there's improvement, it is the only permanent thing indeed, but like what you said, change is inevitable. I like the passion you put into your writings. As usual, your hub is comprehensive and thought provoking, (now you made me think, I am braindead today, hehe), Take care, Maita
Hello Maita, I think change is something I am no longer afraid of. I hope that turns pout to be a good thing. Yes, change happens and is inevitable. Aw, thanks for the nice comments! : ) I made you think? Oh, that's okay, dear! Have a chill out and relax with a herbal tea infusion. Works for me, anyway. I hope you're enjoying your weekend. Was sneaking peeks at your hubs earlier! Cheers! xx
Change is always nessecary, and those who are not ready for changes will be changed sooner or later, a process which might be much more painful. The majority of those who are in power (the financial system and their slaves, the politicians) are not interested in changes, so they manipulate the people to stay in power. The first step to make changes is to replace this manipulation by education.
Hy nextstopjupiter: you make some salient points here. Education is a key to everything to do with change, and as I said in the hub, schooling and education is where we start on the big road of change in life. And when things stagnate or begin to wear down, change is needed to make things new and bring in new ideas. Sure it has its downsides, but change is always necessary - as you say. Thanks for the comments! :)
If you are not changing as per the time, the time will change you.
Thanks
Nice hub.
Hy Iamsam: yes, I agree, the time will change us eventually. Things do change. And we have to change with time. Great to get your comments. Cheers!
Excellent points!
I think people seek stability because with it you can "relax" and go on "auto-pilot". Knowing things will remain the same gives them comfort. They want to be finished or done with learning/training. When there is constant change it means they don't get to relax because there is a requirement to make adjustments in order to keep up with things on the horizon. Most people want to focus on the NOW and not speculate about what will be needed in the future. People who are open to change tend to be proactive and those who resist change tend to be reactive. In life there is no such gear as Neutral. We're either going forward or we're slipping backwards.
When we change our circumstances change. Your friends and family may be against you making changes because they realize your relationship with them will also change.
There can be no growth without change.
Excellent hub!
Hell dashingscorpio: what excellent comments here. People do have that auto pilot mode and they stay in its comfort as its safe and reassuring for them. I agree, being proactive is definitely good, and planning for the future is to me part of my sense of survival almost. Growth can't happen without change, yes, I agree. Wow, you have a real handle on the whole change thing, my friend. I am very impressed! :D
Oh triple holy mother of everything, you are KIDDING me!!!!! You did? Hehehe! "Tis an Art to be a Towel"??"!(%^&)~ drat - hand slipped from laughing my butt off. Art, that is outstandingly fantasmagorical! LOL! I cannot wait to see this! I am dying to see how it will look.
Getting a Pro to design, haw? Oooh, now I am jealous. This is mighty. If anyone can do it and has the branded trademarked humour, it's Ronnie Corbett. ...kidding...it's you! Heh! If I ever fly over Belfast and see a flag over a house and it sez on it "Tis an Art being a Towel", I will know it's you!
Step Daddy, I like that! Now I am smiling more. Art, you are a marvel! Loves ya! *Big Hugs* Enjoy your weekend too! Cheers, moi friend. :D XOXOX
Art, this sounds just killer! You work that humour so well, and I can picture in moi mind how it's going to come across, that is what the net needs. sarcasm and irreverent humour all the way. Well setting your targets at the likes of Perez Hilton is good. Lndsay, Cheryl and Peter Crouch, what a great combination, beauty and testosterone all in one. Breakfast reading will be great now! Heh! Well done! I am delighted and so happy to see you doing this Art.
Simon sounds like he is going to be a massive Hit! Cheers! This has made my day! Enjoy your weekend! Mwaaah! XOXOX
Some pretty things to ponder here moi friend. I just love listening to you. If we were classmates, I'd want you in my debate team ;) Hmm change is so complex but as long as we'd be happy without hurting people, it's good. Thumbs up for this hub CG :)
Hy Blaise! Well, I enjoyed this hub as it is good to tackle some different subjects like change and how we hate it yet we are so prone to it too. Change controls our lives whether we like it or not. The ones who go with it tend I think to do better int he long term. Of course this is just a ventured opinion. But there I go again! Heh!
Aw, well thanks for putting up with me, Blaise. LOL! Being in your class debating team would be great. I love a good debate, not for arguing, but for talking about the issues and teasing out the bits that are less talked about. Hubs are a nice place to exercise that a wee bit.
The trick with change is to accept the changes that are good for us but not the challenges that are too costly or those that exact too high a price. You mention a good thing here, we do have those comfort zones we feel safest within. I know what that feels like, and I can so relate to this. I would not want changes to hurt people either. It's why some people won't want change to happen, as it proves too much for them to bare, and they may have seen the bad side of change in their lives.
"Change for profit" is the one massive No-no that most people dislike more than others. Combine Change and the Money Factor, and you have a recipe for disaster waiting to happen. Yes, Change is complex. Sometimes life is like that, and it makes us respond in some way. It's a challenge. But perhaps some challenges are life affirming.
Always great to get your valued comments, moi friend! Cheers! Have a nice relaxing weekend. Cathy says hi to ya from our kitchen. LOL. :D Cheers! XOX
Cheeky - change always comes plopping down into our lives, and we resist, we struggle, yet without it we are not fully human. Being a successful human being is the ability to adapt to change. Great, thoughtful hub!
Hey Dolores, great to see you as always. You sure got the gist of this hub - it's about being human alright, and yes, we can adapt and change. Thanks for the comments!
Great hub you have here, and thanks for the best comment that I've ever had to date on my little Possum Hub. Have a nice day !!!!
Hey possum lover, thanks for the comments. Yes, I was smiling like crazy reading this hub. Your hub is a great page and I admire your great efforts and imaginative way of making the whole possum thing come alive. Magic! It has to be seen to be appreciated. Have a great day!
Hi CG, this is great hub written comprehensively about change..the saying goes like 'the only thing which is constant is change'..change is inevitable and for the better..people resist change as the outcome is uncertain, people how do not have the risk taking capability do not change easily..but no one can stop themselves or their environment from changing, they can only delay it..Oh, am getting philosophical here..I guess I am too bored at work today, lol..your hub certainly shook me up..thanks for sharing, it is always wonderful to read your posts as you are a wonderful writer.. Cheers
Hello @MagicBoy: you make some good points here, and yes, change is inevitable and for the better. Yes, it's okay to be philosophical, that is good. It's a good thing to stop and think about how the dynamics of Change work, it can be quite a heavy subject! Cheers, always appreciate your interesting comments! :)
We are gonna get you to 500 fans within a week or my name isnt Simon Towell ; ) xoxo
Great hub as usual! Love reading and will read it again. Hope you are well.
Hy Art! Oooh! 500? I am seeing it creep up bit by bit here. Gosh, you sound like you are going to give me a boost or Hoosh-up of some kind? *scratches moi head here in wonder* Well, thanks for this. Might nice of you, Art...er..I mean Simon. :) XOXOX
Hy Ladybird: thanks for the glowing comment here. Wow, read it often or hey why not save it or bookmark, that's what I do a lot. I am very well, and thank you for asking, moi friend. I hope your day is good and you're well too! ; )
really good hub. I like your perspective and how much you covered. The only thing we can be certain of is change, but I'm so guilty of resisiting change. It's like it's hardwired in me. So many changes when I was younger and most meant bad things so change is change for me, sometimes good sometimes bad- it just is.
Hy izettl: thanks for the comments here. You are not alone, Resistance to change is hardwired into many of us. If change had a negative impact on your life, then it is no surprise you are so "hardwired" against change, but yet you can still see that. Very interesting perspective. Thanks izettl. It is thought provoking stuff!
Change is life. Yet we fear change. Yet we love life. Hmmmm.
Thank you for illuminating the conundrum :)
Hy Jess: Heh, I think I have made you less confused but still scratching your head and wondering! Cheers!
I'm a life long fan of change, I'm the girl who likes to jump in the car and just drive, go anywhere that things are different and I feel new to be the new kid and experience change. Change is good, its exciting and keeps us renewed, refreshed and alive. I love this article and will visit again. Thanks and Peace :)
Like the song goes,
I'm like a bird I wanta fly away
I don't know where my home is
I don't know where my soul is
Katie, I am the same, I love to climb in my car and just take off, and do my own thing, spur of the moment thing. Yes, experiencing change can be nice at times, the unexpected kind of change you least suspect till it comes upon you, and that can be very interesting indeed! I love the song lyrics here! She is one of my faves!! Have all her albums! Heh! I like how you view change! Glad you like my hub on "Change". Peace! Cheers! Have a great day! :D
very nice article thnaks
Hy MMMoney; thanks for the comment! Cheers!
We change for the better, that's what it is. So we really need to welcome changes in our life. Thanks for this hub. This is life.
Hello Lita: I so agree with this. Change is part of life indeed. I am glad you liked the hub. Cheers! I will check out your hubs too! :D Take care!
Change is the only thing that is permanent. This hub is so awesome, it seems that you left no stone unturned! Thanks for sharing! Voted up and rated it awesome because it is! =)
Hy DjBryle: I wrote it in a kind of philosophical moment or mood. It's nice when that happens. Always glad to share, my friend. Thanks for the Vote and Rating too. You're a good sport! Cheers! :)
CG, well reasoned article--studies on aging say that it is the resistance to change that spells early deterioration in the mind. They suggest doing things differently like put your socks or shoes on the opposite of what you normally do, brush your teeth with the other hand etc. and most helpful of all--find a skill you haven't mastered (and like Tony says, you are a little afraid to try) and determine to master it. A relative of mine learned to paint when she was 90 and lived almost to be 100. I say keep the things you enjoy about your life and change the heck out of everything else. =:)
Hello Winsome: I am doing my best to age oh so slowly (in mid 20's). I understand about trying things differently. That is fun.Changing hands to do tasks ought to be fun. I once almost tried changing my driving habits by trying to drive on the opposite side of the road through traffic but the other cars wouldn't let me. Hehehe. Kidding! Not sure Tony would even try that. (At least I don't think so...) LOL! Yes, keep the one half silver and keep the other half gold, that I get. I try to practice something like this in life. We are reading from the same page, Winsome. Great comments! Cheers!! :)
You Go Girl! Thank you for sharing on change. You covered many arenas in life. Yes it is inevitable. Without change we would be like robots moving about. Thank God for change because it will increase our Faith and Trust in Him. Each time we get through a challenge of change it is all for the Good. That is how God works 'He can turn all things for good for those that love Him'. Change can be quite scary but for me if I keep my eyes on things above and not the raging seas it makes for a calmer ride. I trust in GOD to pull me through. He always has and I do not think he has pulled me out of the ocean to throw me back in. It is all good.
Great Hub cheecky girl. I so love your precious, giving heart. You inspire and encorage. Your writing flows!! Thank You. Up & awesome ( - ;
I have a new hub coming up soon like today, Check it out when u can. I have been offline for a time. Big change in my life. Oh little do I know about what is around the corner.
Love ya cheeky. Big Hugs
Hello skye2day: my, what a big comment here! I am glad you like my "Change" hub. Yes, it makes us do things we sometimes would otherwise never do. I have had to endure quite a few changes in my own life, and so I was writing from that point of view too. (This hub took several days to write and re-write.)
I learned that putting off a big change makes the final change sometimes harder or more painful. And we all need something to believe in. Believing in something is better than nothing at all. I would not fancy living the life of a robot. I can relate to what you say here. Bravo - you sound like you are on that path, skye2day. Do trust in yourself too, if I may gently just add that.
The "Change" Hub is deliberately written to include and apply to many areas, in addition to religion. There are so many people who can interpret change on so many levels. You are right not to be scared of change or God. I don't think God would throw you out of the boat, my friend. You need not worry about that. Besides you have a lot more great hubs to write! :)
Aw, shucks, you are nice to say that, skye. Cheers! I am very touched to be seeing this here. :) I appreciate the vote too. Oh I will be checking your hubs. I know you were away, and I's glad you're back. I hope everything is okay with you. Thanks for the Love, Skye. Love those Hugs!! Enjoy the rest of your day. :D
Change is an element of risk and a risk is a sign of danger for many. The association may be through connation or actual experience, and depending on the experiences, it can be perceived as positive or negative. This has a major effect on how we perceive change. Life is dynamic but that does not mean everyone can adapt quickly. Change happens, but sometimes, it is very slow, other times, it is quick. Personally, I embrace change -- it is an opportunity to learn, grow and become more than who I was. Thanks, my good friend, for a thought provoking and well written article! You get two thumbs up from me!!! Big hug!
Hy Beth: change is so tricky as some subjects go. We need it yet we are afraid of it too. To change or not to change - that is the question. We all battle with it at some point or other. I am glad you like the hub, Beth. Embracing change is the eventual way to go. Your comments here remind me of that famous quote "know thyself". Glad you like the hub! Thanks for the thumbs up! Cheers! :)
Not sure if anyone here has said it (cause I didn't read all the comments) but there is a saying that goes something like. "The more things change, the more they stay the same", which is what you point out in the end of your hub that change in inevitable even if you resist because changed things generally become the norm. I agree, sometimes we need sudden change in our lives to spark things, to ignite our souls, however we are all slowly changing over time. Great hub, voted up!
Hello Ginger Meow: I am aware of this saying and yes, it is quite well known. I think you can be safely quoted here as the first to say this. Yes, I am fascinated by how people are reacting to this hub about Change, and why we need change - why we hate change. Yes, changed things do become the norm over time. And we hate it when change suddenly creeps up on us, but it happens anyway, despite how we feel about it. Thanks for the thoughtful comments, my feline friend. :)
Oh yes! Change is something that we all avoid with just about everything we've got when it comes down to it, but it is SO necessary in life for us to grow. How often thoughout life have you found yourself thinking, Man! I need a change!? But then on comes the procrastination!? I always say that change is inevitable, I agree with you Cheeky Girl. It's all part of our own personal evolution! Great hub! :)
You are so right, brandonfan. We do try to stall it or put it off till later, but change becomes necessary and it is inevitable. The procrastination and objection is a built in reflex we seem to have to change. But change is pretty constant. Part of our evolution sometimes means resisting change and trying to avoid the inevitable. Change is like a flea on our back taking a bite of us, till we scratch and react to it. The longer we ignore the critter, the more itchy it gets. Heh!
Thanks for the comment, brandonfan. Cheers!
Interesting hub and could easily relate to many of the excellent points that you raised.
Change is good for all of us if the intended change is positive. Unfortunately many of us, don't like change and prefer to remain within our comfort zone because change requires effort to adapt to.
In the 21st century like it or not, we will have to get accustomed to adjusting and adapting very quickly to the changes thrusted upon us if we're to survive daily life. We can choose to live a simpler life but many of us will want to move with the times so what other choice do we have except to adapt quickly otherwise get left behind.
Thanks for sharing these thoughts.
Hello richtwf: you make some good points here in your comment. Being able to adapt is vital in this age. Some change we don't like, but some change we have no choice but to accept. Comfort zones can be a blessing or a curse. If we adopt the ability to change, we can ensure we don't get left behind. Cheers!
Change for the better comes from sincere caring hearts. Thank you Cheeky Girl.
Thanks Micky for the nice comment here, I could not agree more! :) Cheers!
Hey cutie - I knew this hub would get decent traffic so thought I would drop back and say hi and see how many people have changed.
The thing I found exciting is the fact you STILL remain a Gem. Keep on shining.
hugs
Hello Neil, aw, flattery will definitely get you everywhere! Hehe! It's always great to see you here! :) Um, how many people have changed? Gosh, have they? Any ones in particular, Neil? LOL! I am teasing you. Neil, do you use twitter? I am just curious. The world has been gradually migrating onto it, including moi! Maybe I will get some tweets from you some fine day, well it's a little plug on my pat, but don't worry about the twitter stuff. The world will keep on turning. You are one man who never lost his sense of direction. And thank you for saying I am a gem. It's nice to get compliments like this! Especially on Valentine's weekend! *wink*
*Hugs you right back* Cheers, Neil! XO
Happy valentines to you too.
I tried twitter but found it did not live up to much for me anyway. I found everyone tweeting but no one reading the tweets..... could be just my tweets LOL
I meant it - you are a gem. Inside and out!
XOXO
Thank you Neil! Aw, that is sweet! :D Well, I thin k it might be time to try twitter again. It is bringing traffic in, I think it has changed for the better, Neil. But maybe it is a transition or something. It was your tweets? Heh! I doubt that, Neil. Anyway...it is just a wee suggestion.
Happy Valentines to you, Neil. I hope it brings you you what you wish for! :D
XOXO
Hi Cassy. Learning more about you everyday and I was already impressed. Now I'm just in love...;).
A very nice hub and popular too. I'm not surprised.
Change is something I know very well. I've been self-employed for well over twenty years now and every day is majestic in its challenges. My training is industrial design, so that, with my skills as a fabricator/technician, enables me to literally build the future.
I model 3D and program computerized equipment to create what I envision. Daily, I invent what has never existed to build solutions to my customer's problems. I utilize both ancient and the most "high-tech" of materials and processes.
The surface of my world is liquid - each day requires building a new flotation device to keep from drowning as yesterday's has long since served its purpose.
The reason for all this is that I cherish change. I live and breathe it, build upon it, bastardize it to serve me needs, this day and this moment, not to mention tomorrow's.
I now know it is the solution for all our futures - not as corporate captives, but empowered by the technology that Corporate America has cast aside as obsolete when only a few years old. Machine tools that were eighty grand six years ago (or even a quarter mil') can be had for scrap value today.
One other thing about pursuing change - it doesn't matter if you fail or succeed, because every endeavor generates incredibly valuable information to use in the future. Everything is related (and correlated).
Of course when you live chaos, although you never ask for it (my God is female and she will playfully accommodate my wish and overwhelm me at the drop of a hat), organization, research and analysis is paramount.
We can literally build our own futures, and the time is now....there truly is nothing to fear but...you know.
Thanks again Cassy. I do look forward to following more of your writing. And there really is nothing to fear but apathy and indifference. Personally I like empathy and love myself...and a big challenge!
Will.
Hy Will! Oh dear! Hehehehe. You must not embarrass me by saying things like that here please! Do I detect a wee crush there perhaps? LOL!
Well your ideas about change are very interesting and may I say - very fluid. :) Your view on God is interesting. I personally never discuss religion on hubs ever. It's too complicated...
Oh I do love empathy and love too. Very much. Seeing the world with your heart is the open door into happiness. Do avoid chaos, it's the opposite of good philosophy. The biggest challenge is to know yourself, Will.
Okay, bed time for me now. Enjoy your weekend, moi friend. Thanks for the very interesting points and comments here. You are a big fan, and I thank you for that. Have you read any of Cathy's poetry, I wonder. She completes any missing bits about me you may not know. Cheers Will. :)
What an adventure it is to know you, and yes, that's my problem, I lead with my heart (and follow it to a fault), and I can't help but be enthralled by you.
Cathy's going to be mad at me and I like her too, but of course, I most certainly have a crush on you. You are a fascinatingly vivacious and passionate person, not to mention smart as hell and on top of all that, beautiful too. Crush hell, I'm in love =).
In terms of Cathy's poetry, what I have read I enjoyed thoroughly, but I certainly will read more, not only to learn more of you, but, Ok, to learn more of you (just kidding, I'm a fan a Cathy's writing).
Anyway, I've occupied your time enough, but I gotta tell you, You are my favorite on the hubs. Keep up the writing and more please on the beautiful women. I'm an addict on that one, which again leads me back to you. A very interesting cycle of life I must say...
See ya....
Hy Will, hey you should drop her a comment on her poetry. Cathy likes that. :) Um, why would she be mad at you? Did you say something bad? She wouldn't harm a flea....
Let me know what you thought of the "Encounters" hubs. I am interested to know. And the "Megumi" hubs. There's another one I am posting very soon (part 4). I am looking forward to having 100 hubs written here soon too.
Oh you and your crush!.... :D
But thank you for letting me tease you anyway, and thank you for saying I am your favorite on Hub Pages. Have you read many hub Pages, Will? Hehehe! Just kidding!
Great hub! You raise a lot of excellent points. Like you said, change only happens when people want it to happen. People usually are willing to change because something has occurred to make them uncomfortable. It is human nature to want routine and to be complacency. Change causes lots of feelings that of uncertainty. With the speed of technology, things are changing rapidly and it its hard to accept a lot of changes all at once. Thanks for creating a well put together article. Rated up and useful.
hello toknowinfo: you are right, we hate moving out of our comfort zone, and yet we are constantly challenged to do this quite often in life. Change happens usually when we want it, though sometimes when we least expect it too! Heh!
The hub here reflects our contrary views towards change. It is something we don't always have control over. And it is pretty inevitable too. Technology is helping this change too, as you say. Some changes we can only accept in moderation. Thanks for the great comments. Cheers!
Sometimes I like changes, It sort of moves me on to the next step in life and I am a foot closer to wherever am going, and other times, I hate it when things change..
Because I get so comfortable and used to things, pretty much all my life things have changed and I've lost loved ones etc. So even when no change is announced I FEAR IT...
Great Hub :) thank you for sharing it with us and I've learnt a lot through others' comments :)
Hy Minela: May I call you that, as it is the name on your profile page? First of all, yes, I know exactly what that change can do when it wants to "nudge us" along and we are so reluctant. We hate change but still it pushes against us. We seldom think of change as a friend, and more as a draught that we try to keep at bay, like an ice-cold wind.
The comfort thing is some human tendency we have, in wanting to have things stay the same, all comfortable and cosy. I am totally fascinated by Change and how it affects us. So I wrote this hub to try make sense of it.
I am glad to share with everyone, and I hope you take something from it and maybe gain some insight...
Like Change, I can never be entirely sure where life or even my hubs are going till I get a sign. Heh! So thanks for this one today from you. Cheers! Have a great weekend, and thanks for commenting on my hubs too! :D
This is an interesting hub (which I've voted up) and it has produced many thought-provoking and entertaining comments.
Change implies loss, which is one reason that many people are frightened of change.
Many years ago I was forced to read at least one of Emerson's essays, and one thought has stayed with me. I don't recall the exact words, but his argument was that we often need to make small changes to achieve our goal. He gave the example of a ship crossing the ocean: it could not travel in a straight line because of the waves and currents. It was necessary to make continuous adjustments to continue the journey.
Hello 2patricias! I was inspired by personal events in the life of someone very close to me. I found resistance to change very prevalent in that family of this friend. And this hub was based on my thoughts and feelings.
Yes, the ship has to make constant course corrections due to small factors or weather or just the basic inevitability of the Earth being curved! And yes, change does imply loss, at least - on the surface. But we battle against human instincts and tendencies. Habits can be so hard to break. So change is something we do hate but we have to learn to embrace it some times. Thanks for the thoughtful comments and the vote! ^_^
Oh my gosh, so true that it is. All my life I have been hearing what to do or how to do it and honestly, I have to admit that I did change but never was good at taking advice. I probably just wanted to learn so myself or find something out on my own. Either way, I love change now, I am so use to change that if I don't have change I think I try to create it somehow. Quite a cool hub choice. Great idea Cheeky Girl.
Hello lanealanea, thanks for the comments! Changing for others or changing for ourselves... that is the question! Well, if you are creating change in your life then I hope it is working okay for you. You have embraced change, and that is a big leap right there.
I am not sure where or how the idea for writing this came to me, it just needed to be written, as I get inspiration from people and events. Cheers!
I there is factors enforce us to change as follows:
- To ensure existence and job security
- Competition
- New technology
- moving to more success
- Inflation
- Challenges at marketplace
Ading to that some people like to discover their new potential.
Hy Sager, this is an interesting list! Discovering one's new potential is a great reason to change things in one's life! New technology changes constantly too! Competition forces change too! Cheers!
With 881 followers I thought I would stop by and see what you are doing that is so right. Loved this hub; I'm all about change. Not sure I have embraced it all my life but after a number of years of forced change I discovered it really isn't scary at all. Now I enjoy the challenges and welcome whatever comes along. Great job!
Hya Billy! Nice to see you here! Wow, it's over the 880! Phew! What I do is write and write and write. Plus make other web pages. Heh!
Yes, change does not have to be scary. We seem to be slowly coming round to the concept of change as being a necessary part of modern life.
The trick is to embrace challenges as they come along. I hope you find the things you look for in life, wherever they may be. Cheers! :)
Neil Sperling Level 5 Commenter 21 months ago
So True!
I say "Times change and we with time, but not in ways of true friendship"
The whole universe is in a state of change, those who adjust find the road less frightful, those who don't slip backwards.